Conflict Resolution: Resolve difficult situations.
Conflict resolution requires making difficult decisions. Difficult situations are not impossible to resolve. It just means that they require thought and patience. Making the correct decision; a decision that is workable for all parties requires extra time. Here is a simple method I use to assist people find common ground.
What are the consequences?
What are the consequences, or effects of my decisions. Will they be helpful or unhelpful? Are decisions based on common ground or out of spite? Will my decision move the situation forward? Am I interested in the short term or long term. Am I willing to wait or am I seeking immediate benefit?
All of these are good questions. I am sure there are many more that need, and should be asked.
The idea here is to look at the situation from as many different points of view as possible. Be honest. Brutally honest. What will be the effects of my decision? On myself. On others. In the immediate. In the future.
Decisions have not been made yet. Decisions are only being considered at this point.
Are my decisions parallel to my values?
When considering the consequences of decisions, a person is also examining their values. Examining decisions and the motivations for decisions will reveal the value (or lack of value) behind the action.
If your decision is in line with your values. And your values are positive (honesty, faith, respect, trust) then it is likely that your decision is correct.
If, however, your decision does not align with your positive values – you may want to re-think. Decisions based on this level does not have a very good chance of working. Does not have a very good chance of finding a workable resolution. Go back and adjust your decisions.
Or, if you are making decisions based on negative values (greed, power, superiority) finding common ground will be very difficult.
Decisions have been made and put into action. Now is the time to make a reality check. Did the decision result in a positive outcome? Did you find common ground? Is the resolution workable for the long term? Did your decision help you move forward, to put your conflict behind you?
The important question is; did the outcome of your decision match with the consequences and affects that you first thought?
If you were able to accurately anticipate the consequences of decision. If your decision is aligned with your values. If the reality of decisions is positive. You will have created a workable, positive long term resolution.